Sexuality, Desire,
& Male Psychology
“the first and most ancient seducer of all, she offers a total release from all limitations of life. the ultimate male fantasy, a mirage”
HER PRESENCE IS ALWAYS HEIGHTENED & SEXUALLY CHARGED
The Siren. The most potent of them all.
Go through the Test: “Your Seduction Type”, so we can establish point A, and point B.
Understanding Male Psychology & Libido of Hyper-Achievers
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The Siren
A man is often secretly oppressed by the role he has to play - by always having to be responsible, in control, and rational. The Siren is the ultimate male fantasy figure because she offers a total release from limitations of his life. In her presence, which is always heightened and sexually charged, the male feels transported to a world of pure pleasure. She is dangerous, and in pursuing her energetically the man can lose control over himself, something he yearns to do. The Siren is a mirage; she lures men by cultivating a particular appearance and manner. In a world where women are often too timid to project such an image, learn to take control of the male libido by embodying his fantasy.
Keys to the Character
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Keys to the Character *
The Siren is the most ancient seductress of them all. Her prototype is the goddess Aphrodite - it is her nature to have a mythic quality about her - but do not imagine as if she is a thing of the past, or of legend and history: she represents a powerful male fantasy of a highly sexual, supremely confident, alluring female offering endless pleasure and a bit of danger.
In today’s world this fantasy can only appeal the more strongly to the male psyche, for now more than ever he lives in a world that circumscribes his aggressive instincts by making everything safe & secure, a world that offers less chance for adventure and risk than ever before.
In the past, a man had some outlets for these drives - warfare, the high seas, political intrigue. In the sexual realm, courtesans and mistresses were practically a social institution, and offered him the variety and the chase that he craved. Without any outlets, his drives turn inward and gnaw at him, becoming all the more volatile for being repressed.
Sometimes a powerful man will do the most irrational things, have an affair when it is least called for, just for a thrill, the danger of it all.
The irrational can prove immensely seductive, even more so for men, who must always seem so reasonable.
If it is seductive power you are after, the Siren is the most potent of all. She operates on a man’s most basic emotions, and if she plays her role properly, she can transform a normally strong and responsible male into a childish slave.
“Your next encounter will be with the Sirens, who bewitch every man that approaches them… For with the music of their song the Sirens cast their spell upon him, as they sit there in a meadow piled high with the moldering skeletons of men, whose withered skin still hangs upon their bones“
- Circe to Odysseus, The Odyssey, Book XII
How To Become A Siren
First & foremost, a Siren must distinguish herself from other women. She is by nature a rare thing, mythic, only on in a group; she is also a valuable prize to be wrested away from other men.
Physicality offers the best opportunities here, since a Siren preeminently a sight to behold. A highly feminine and sexual presence, even to the point of caricature, will quickly differentiate you, since most women lack the confidence to project such an image.
Most women lack confidence to project such an image.
Once the Siren has made herself stand out from others, she must have two other critical qualities: the ability to get the male to pursue her so feverishly that he loses control; and a touch of dangerous. Danger is surprisingly seductive. To get the male to pursue you is relatively simple: a highly sexual presence will do this quite well.
But you must not resemble a courtesan or whore, whom the male may pursue only to quickly lose interest in her. Instead, you are slightly elusive & distant, a fantasy come to life. These qualities will make a man chase you vehemently, and the more he chases, the more he will fell that he is acting on his own initiative.
You do not have to spend days studying their minds; simply conform to their moods, adapt to their tastes, play along with whatever they send your way. In doing so you will lower their natural defensiveness. People truly love themselves, but what they love most of all is to see their ideas and tastes reflected in another person.
This validates them. Their habitual insecurity vanishes. Hypnotized by their mirror image, they relax. Now you can slowly draw them out.
- The Art of Seduction, Robert Greene
An element of danger is easy to hint at, and will enhance your other Siren characteristics. Sirens are often fantastically irrational, which is immensely attractive to men who are oppressed by their own reasonableness.
A touch of fear is also critical: it creates respect, keeping a man at a proper distance, so that he doesn’t get close enough to see through you. Create such fear by suddenly changing your moods, keeping the man off balance, occasionally intimidating him with capricious behavior.
The most important element for an aspiring Siren is always the physical, the Siren’s main instrument of power. Physical qualities - a scent, a heightened femininity evoked through makeup or through elaborate or seductive clothing - act all the more powerful on men because they have no meaning. In their immediacy they bypass rational processes, having the same effect that a decoy has on an animal, or the movement of a cape on a bull.
The proper Siren appearance is often confused with physical beauty, particularly the face. But a beautiful face does not a Siren make: instead it creates too much distance & coldness. The Siren must stimulate a generalized desire, and the best way to do this is by creating an overall impression that is both distracting and alluring. It is not one particular trait, but a combination of qualities >>>
Of all seductive tactics, entering someone’s spirit is perhaps the most devilish of all. It gives your victim the feeling that they are seducing you. The fact that you are indulging them, entering their spirit, suggests that you are under their spell. You are not a dangerous seducer to be wary of, but someone compliant and unthreatening.
The attention you pay to them is intoxicating - since you are mirroring them, everything they see and hear from you reflects their own ego and tastes. What a boost to their vanity.
All this sets up the seduction, the series of maneuvers that will turn the dynamic around. Once their defenses are down, they are open to your subtle influence. Soon you will begin to take over the dance, and without even noticing the shift, they will find themselves entering your spirit.
- The Art of Seduction, Robert Greene
The Voice
Clearly a critical quality, as the legend indicates, the Siren’s voice has an immediate animal presence with incredible suggestive power. The Sirens must have an insinuating voice that hints at the erotic, more often subliminally than overtly. The siren never speaks quickly, aggressively, or at a high pitch. Her voice is calm and unhurried, as if she had never quite woken up - or left her bed.
Body & Adornment
If the voice must lull, the body and its adornment must dazzle. It is with her clothes that the Siren aims to create the goddess effect.
The key: everything must dazzle, but must also be harmonious, so that no single ornament draws attention. Your presence must be charged, larger than life, a fantasy come true.
Ornament is used to cast a spell & distract. The Siren can also use clothing to hint at the sexual, at times overtly but more often by suggesting it rather than screaming it - the latter would make you seem manipulative.
Related to this is the notion of selective disclosure, the revealing of only a part of the body - but a part that will excite and stir the imagination.
Movement & Demeanor
The Siren moves gracefully and unhurriedly. The proper gestures, movement, and demeanor for a Siren are like a proper voice: they hint at something exciting, stirring desire without being obvious. Your air must be languorous, as if you had all the time in the world for love and pleasure. Your gestures must have a certain ambiguity, suggesting something both innocent & erotic, a perversely satisfying mix.
While one part of you seems to scream sex, the other part is coy and naive, as if you were incapable of understanding the effect you are having.
Symbol - Water
The Song of the Siren is liquid & enticing, and the Siren herself is fluid & ungraspable. Like the sea, the Siren lures you with the promise of infinite adventure & pleasure. Forgetting past and future, men follow her far out to sea, where they drown.
Dark Sensual Music for Sirens.
Simply. Dance for your man. Strip down. Move slowly. Feel your blood boiling with desire.
{We will learn about Sex & Sensuality in the future lessons*}
Feminine & Sensual Music with words.
Music is a powerful instrument for getting yourself into a desired mood. Melodies make our bodies move, they make us envision things we couldn’t thought we had in mind. Combined with words, songs become an instrument of influence. I'd recommend to listen to the music without words, or in a foreign language. Because… as people of high conscience, we don’t want to be influenced by the thoughts, life beliefs & stories of others. A melody combined with words becomes a mantra, and if you listen to it everyday - it can manifest into reality. So don’t allow yourself to listen to life that you don’t want to manifest. But if you are able to switch off your mind, & you are open to have just some fun - here’s a playlist with different genres [rather modern].